Tuesday, December 27, 2011
Monday, December 26, 2011
By Melanie A. Greenberg, Ph.D. on November 23, 2011 - 8:34am
"For each new morning with its light, For rest and shelter of the night, For health and food, for love and friends, For everything Thy goodness sends."-Ralph Waldo Emerson
Experiencing and expressing gratitude is an important part of any spiritual practice. It opens the heart and activates positive emotion centers in the brain. Regular practice of gratitude can change the way our brain neurons fire into more positive automatic patterns. The positive emotions we evoke can soothe distress and broaden our thinking patterns so we develop a larger and more expansive view of our lives. Gratitude is an emotion of connectedness, which reminds us we are part of a larger universe with all living things. Below are some of my favorite quotes about gratitude to help inspire you and deepen your thinking about finding an enduring place for gratitude in your own life.
1. "Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom." - Marcel Proust
2. "We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures." - Thornton Wilder
3. As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. John F. Kennedy
4. At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us. Albert Schweitzer
5. The deepest craving of human nature is the need to be appreciated. -- WIlliam James
6. "Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough." -- Oprah Winfrey
7. He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has." - Epictetus
How to Bring Gratitude into Your Life
To begin bringing gratitude into your life, you can deliberately meditate on all the things in your own life that help you or give you pleasure. You can also write a gratitude diary, posting pictures and writing about the things you feel grateful for each day. The holidays are a great time to express your gratitude to friends and family by writing cards and exchanging thoughtful, personal gifts. Baking cookies for neighbors or sharing food with the poor are other ways to express appreciation for the abundance of food that we have in this country. Gratitude can lead to feelings of love, appreciation, generosity, and compassion, which further open our hearts and help rewire our brains to fire in more positive ways.
About The Author
Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist, life coach, and expert on life change, health psychology, integrative & behavioral medicine, chronic stress and pain, who has published her own research in academic journals. Previously a Professor, she is now an influential practicing psychologist, speaker, and media consultant.
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By Arthur Dobrin, DSW on December 16, 2011 - 2:57am
Cowards can never be moral, said Mohandas Gandhi. Here is why:
People can know what is right and even want to do what is right but still not act rightly. Why? Because they are afraid. They lack the courage to support their convictions.
We need courage to face the unknown; we need courage to let go of irrational fears.
We need courage to face our own death and courage to allow others to help us through difficult times. We need courage to let others in.
We need courage to be ourselves, to take responsibility for our actions, to overcome the fear of rejection and disapproval. It takes courage to openly listen to the voices of others, to admit mistakes and then do what must be done.
Courage frees us to find new and better ways of being- with others and with ourselves. The fear of letting go keeps us prisoners of our own making. The courage to face what is, to seek the truth in the reality of things, allows us to become free of groundless fear.
I like this anecdote about the philosopher and boxer:
A.J. Ayer achieved fame as an intellectual giant the field of academic philosophy. He became a celebrity of sorts, and, at 78 years old, he was invited to attend a party hosted by a well-known fashion designer. At the gathering, Ayer was talking with several of the models when a young woman ran by, crying that a friend was being assaulted in the next room.
Ayer rushed into the bedroom and found a man forcing himself upon a young woman.
Ayer ordered him to leave the woman alone.
The hulking man responded, "Do you know who I am? I'm Mike Tyson, the heavyweight champion of the world!"
Ayer quickly responded, "And I am the former Wykeham Professor of Logic." He quickly added,
"We are both pre-eminent in our field; I suggest we talk this over like rational men."
As Tyson turned to engage Ayer, he forgot about the model, allowing her enough time to escape to the other room and safety.
Thursday, December 22, 2011
"AGING IMAGINATIONS" is a gripping story of a man, whose loss of his wife brings him to a stand point in life. Unable to cope, or to tell his young daughter about her mom's death the man refuses to go to the wake. However, an unlikely friend shows him a different path in experiencing whats known to be true and certain in his life, by diving into his own imagination. Through these "sessions" of experiencing a different world, entirely created and lived by the man himself, he finds one of life's most powerful messages.
Tuesday, December 20, 2011
Anonymous donors pay off Kmart layaway accounts
By MARGERY A. BECK | AP - Fri, Dec 16, 2011
OMAHA, Neb. (AP) — The young father stood in line at the Kmart layaway counter, wearing dirty clothes and worn-out boots. With him were three small children.
He asked to pay something on his bill because he knew he wouldn't be able to afford it all before Christmas. Then a mysterious woman stepped up to the counter.
"She told him, 'No, I'm paying for it,'" recalled Edna Deppe, assistant manager at the store in Indianapolis. "He just stood there and looked at her and then looked at me and asked if it was a joke. I told him it wasn't, and that she was going to pay for him. And he just busted out in tears."
At Kmart stores across the country, Santa seems to be getting some help: Anonymous donors are paying off strangers' layaway accounts, buying the Christmas gifts other families couldn't afford, especially toys and children's clothes set aside by impoverished parents.
Before she left the store Tuesday evening, the Indianapolis woman in her mid-40s had paid the layaway orders for as many as 50 people. On the way out, she handed out $50 bills and paid for two carts of toys for a woman in line at the cash register.
"She was doing it in the memory of her husband who had just died, and she said she wasn't going to be able to spend it and wanted to make people happy with it," Deppe said. The woman did not identify herself and only asked people to "remember Ben," an apparent reference to her husband.
Deppe, who said she's worked in retail for 40 years, had never seen anything like it.
"It was like an angel fell out of the sky and appeared in our store," she said.
Most of the donors have done their giving secretly.
Dona Bremser, an Omaha nurse, was at work when a Kmart employee called to tell her that someone had paid off the $70 balance of her layaway account, which held nearly $200 in toys for her 4-year-old son.
"I was speechless," Bremser said. "It made me believe in Christmas again."
Dozens of other customers have received similar calls in Nebraska, Michigan, Iowa, Indiana and Montana.
The benefactors generally ask to help families who are squirreling away items for young children. They often pay a portion of the balance, usually all but a few dollars or cents so the layaway order stays in the store's system.
The phenomenon seems to have begun in Michigan before spreading, Kmart executives said.
"It is honestly being driven by people wanting to do a good deed at this time of the year," said Salima Yala, Kmart's division vice president for layaway.
The good Samaritans seem to be visiting mainly Kmart stores, though a Wal-Mart spokesman said a few of his stores in Joplin, Mo., and Chicago have also seen some layaway accounts paid off.
Kmart representatives say they did nothing to instigate the secret Santas or spread word of the generosity. But it's happening as the company struggles to compete with chains such as Wal-Mart and Target.
Kmart may be the focus of layaway generosity, Yala said, because it is one of the few large discount stores that has offered layaway year-round for about four decades. Under the program, customers can make purchases but let the store hold onto their merchandise as they pay it off slowly over several weeks.
The sad memories of layaways lost prompted at least one good Samaritan to pay off the accounts of five people at an Omaha Kmart, said Karl Graff, the store's assistant manager.
"She told me that when she was younger, her mom used to set up things on layaway at Kmart, but they rarely were able to pay them off because they just didn't have the money for it," Graff said.
He called a woman who had been helped, "and she broke down in tears on the phone with me. She wasn't sure she was going to be able to pay off their layaway and was afraid their kids weren't going to have anything for Christmas."
"You know, 50 bucks may not sound like a lot, but I tell you what, at the right time, it may as well be a million dollars for some people," Graff said.
Graff's store alone has seen about a dozen layaway accounts paid off in the last 10 days, with the donors paying $50 to $250 on each account.
"To be honest, in retail, it's easy to get cynical about the holidays, because you're kind of grinding it out when everybody else is having family time," Graff said. "It's really encouraging to see this side of Christmas again."
Lori Stearnes of Omaha also benefited from the generosity of a stranger who paid all but $58 of her $250 layaway bill for toys for her four youngest grandchildren.
Stearnes said she and her husband live paycheck to paycheck, but she plans to use the money she was saving for the toys to help pay for someone else's layaway.
In Missoula, Mont., a man spent more than $1,200 to pay down the balances of six customers whose layaway orders were about to be returned to a Kmart store's inventory because of late payments.
Store employees reached one beneficiary on her cellphone at Seattle Children's Hospital, where her son was being treated for an undisclosed illness.
"She was yelling at the nurses, 'We're going to have Christmas after all!'" store manager Josine Murrin said.
A Kmart in Plainfield Township, Mich., called Roberta Carter last week to let her know a man had paid all but 40 cents of her $60 layaway.
Carter, a mother of eight from Grand Rapids, Mich., said she cried upon hearing the news. She and her family have been struggling as she seeks a full-time job.
"My kids will have clothes for Christmas," she said.
Angie Torres, a stay-at-home mother of four children under the age of 8, was in the Indianapolis Kmart on Tuesday to make a payment on her layaway bill when she learned the woman next to her was paying off her account.
"I started to cry. I couldn't believe it," said Torres, who doubted she would have been able to pay off the balance. "I was in disbelief. I hugged her and gave her a kiss."
Associated Press writers Michael J. Crumb in Des Moines, Iowa; Matt Volz, in Helena, Mont.; and Jeff Karoub in Detroit contributed to this report.
Friday, December 16, 2011
The Star Online > Metroperak
Wednesday December 7, 2011
Cultural melting pool
By William Citrin
RUDYARD Kipling once wrote that "East is East, and West is West, and never the twain shall meet".
He had obviously never been in the pool at my condo. I dwell in an expat enclave (with a fair share of locals as well), and my swimming hole is a sort of submerged United Nations with representatives from various and sundry countries engaging in splish splash diplomacy for control of the waterways.
Like fly-infested fruits, these citizens of the world all bring with them habits which, if unchecked, can completely destroy the serene marine environment. As the self-appointed "policeman of the pool", it is my duty to safeguard the sanctity of the waters.
Some people from that rather large country to the north (which, according to many observers, will soon rule the planet) have the repulsive propensity for spitting in the water, horking and launching loogies without warning.
I have embarked on a personal crusade to educate them by physically demonstrating that they can, believe it or not, actually swallow their own saliva. But I am fighting a losing battle and – as I will probably be cleaning Sino pools in 10 years time – I usually just try to weave my way around the phlegmy flotsam that they jettison from their mouths.
I also have to zigzag my way around the Malaysian dippers who, just as on the roads, seem to be spatially challenged in pools. As if magnetically attracted to other moving objects, locals constantly veer into my lane (sometimes nudging in politely, other times flagrantly swimming horizontally against the flow of traffic and often just parking their butts in the middle of my path for no apparent reason).
Maybe we need to hire one of those traffic cops to stand in the middle of the pool with his mighty whistle and incessantly flicking wrist.
The Malay word for water is "air"(I remember being shocked when I first arrived here and saw that they were actually charging for "air" on the menu at a local restaurant). This confusion about the elements may explain why Malaysians do things in the water in the pool which should be done in the air on land such as having a picnic, having a pee (granted, it was some kids), having family and friend gatherings, smoking cigarette after cigarette, playing with cats and turtles, and wearing an ensemble of street clothes (jeans, sweatshirts, socks and even slippers).
On the opposite end of the swimming fashion spectrum are those middle-aged expat European men, who think that "proper swimming attire" is a derričre- and junk-revealing speedo.
Like a sleek F1 racing spoiler on a Kancil, these absurdly skimpy swimsuits cannot cover the hairy and bulging (in the wrong places) reality of their bodies.
Also leaving nothing to the imagination are the micro-bikinis sported by over-da-hill Western women which – even though I'm an anarchist at heart – make me wish there were laws prohibiting such indecent exposure.
One scantily clad lady from eastern Europe commented on my swimming prowess: "Yoo air lick a feesh…a beeg feesh".
As I didn't want to be marinated, grilled and devoured on the spot, I quickly shot out of the water.
Don't even get me started about the kids, who remind me of those Sea Monkeys I used to cultivate in a plastic container as a young boy – jerking and jumping and dancing maniacally through their liquid playground (and de facto toilet).
I shouldn't criticise too much here, as my own son yawned in technicolour (i.e. puked) in the pool one time. Mortified, I desperately tried to grasp the floating chunks of hurl, which actually made them break up into smaller bits and spread throughout the water. I then did what any responsible parent would do: I grabbed my child and ran.
I think the root of my pool problems is that most people at my condo have no clue how to swim and they flail about fecklessly in the great blue beyond.
I have even seen one middle-aged man who was – I wish I were joking – actually wearing pink Barbie floaties. What I don't understand is that we were all born swimmers (we were all immersed for nine happy months before coming up for air), so how is it that most of us have come to be complete bobbing boobs?
So let this be a warning to my fellow cosmopolitan condo-pool goers: it's a sink-or-swim world out there. I am a serious swimmer and if you don't get out of my way, you will pay.
Besides writing and bingo, William Citrin's only other talent is swimming and he showcases his skills in his condo pool almost every day. Unfortunately, he has to share the same H2O with a cosmopolitan cast of characters with terribly irritating underwater idiosyncrasies.
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
Box 2 is Pos Ekspres ie. Express Post
Box 1 is 'Lain-lain Tempat' ie. Mails for other places.
Box 3 is 'Kuala Lumpur sahaja' ie. Kuala Lumpur only.
The postal officer came along with the mail bag sack, opened boxes 1 and 3, collected all mails from both boxes and stuffed them all into the 1 sack, WTF?!?!
Tuesday, December 13, 2011
Monday, December 12, 2011
Sunday, December 11, 2011
I have been receiving this spam twice today and twice previously.
If you do receive such an email, don't be gullible to believe only 2 of your yahoo emails are pending for your 'collection'.
This joker can spell 'receive'.
Look at the address of the link. It's not from yahoo. Anyway, Yahoo does not hold anyone's emails.
Ignore and delete.
Sent by: firstname.lastname@example.org
Dear Yahoo User,
your two incoming mails were placed on pending status due to the recent upgrade to our database,
In order to recieve the messages Click here <http://www.desperate-usa.com/images/icons/yahoomail.html> .to login and wait for responds from Yahoo.
We apologise for any inconvenience and appreciate your understanding.
Thursday, December 8, 2011
Video from KarmaTube
Wednesday, December 7, 2011
Behind The Scenes
Follow a man as he affects multiple peoples' lives with just one dollar, proving that it doesn't take much to be the change in someone's life.
Written and directed by Sharon Wright
Winner - Best Short Film - Maryville Film Festival
Winner - Audience Choice Award - Gateway Film Festival
Winner - Audience Choice Award - Moonlight Film Festival
Nominated - Best Female Filmmaker Award - Action On Film Intl Film Festival
Nominated - Sirrocco Award - Action On Film Intl Film Festival
Nominated - Best Silent Film - BareBones Intl Film Festival
For a copy or permission to screen the film, please contact - email@example.com
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Tuesday, December 6, 2011
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Thursday, December 1, 2011
In his acceptance speech during the Prize for Freedom award ceremony held last week, Dr Chee Soon Juan emphasized the need for Singapore to work towards an alternative model of a more egalitarian society.
1. Do not argue with an idiot. He will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience.
Read more: http://www.smh.com.au/world/thai-crackdown-on-facebook-remarks-on-king-20111125-1nz1t.html#ixzz1fGI7fYtn